Before I got pregnant with Anna I never kept lists. I always remembered everything, even what groceries we needed off the top of my head.
Then I got a bad case of the “mommy brain”. These days I keep several lists going at once. One of my favorites is the “next Ikea trip list”. Whenever my husband surprises me by wanting to go I’m ready.
Today I discovered that making a visual list is even more fun.
They say having a baby turns your whole life upside-down.
After 4 months of being a parent I can see why they say that, but I find the statement limiting to a certain extent.
Of course life has changed, but the way it’s structured is still very me. I’m thriving in trying to organize this beautiful chaos into something constructive (any other fellow Virgos out there?). Marveling in the wonder of getting to know my baby. What she needs, how to nurture her, how to keep her smiling and learning herself. That’s so me.
Life is also still very us.
We like being comfortable, going to bed early, rewarding ourselves with a Thai lunch when we can sneak one in, watching videos of our baby when she’s sleeping in her room because we miss her.
All our ambitious plans are still there and growing. We dream of going to China or Japan soon and are not afraid to say we want to be a globetrotting family.
My birthday is coming up and I’ll be 37. I can honestly say I don’t need anything this year. I couldn’t possibly want more.
I’m still going to buy the old self a new pair of boots. Only the good die young and I want to live to be 100.
Having Anna has made me a lot more conscious of the kind of interaction little girls get every day.
Sure she’s a baby now and in fact may even respond better to baby talk and compliments than anything else but I’m (already) tired of the endless “how cute” or “pretty girl” comments. I’d rather have a thoughtful conversation about her development.
Seems like the world isn’t really that interested, though.
It made me want to re-read this article I bookmarked a long time before Anna was even born.
At the time it struck a chord, and now I understand why.
I always took for granted being talked to like a normal person since I was a baby. I guess my mom even went overboard, as was the trend in the feminist 70’s. Some battles were lost (pink and Barbies=the devil) but I guess the real lesson stuck.
I’ve been avidly reading about pregnancy and babies since I found out I was expecting last year and bought many books and dvds. Some I’ve found really useful, some ok, but a few were pretty useless.
Baby names now. This one has some useful commentaries on names, is modern but not ridiculously over the top.
Element: Prenatal And Postnatal Yoga dvd. I liked this yoga routine and the way it made me feel so much I did it almost every morning-and never got bored with it.
The Pregnancy Book. I read about 95% of this while I was pregnant. I felt like it was sympathetic and well-connected emotionally.
The Wonder Weeks. This one I have just discovered and is pretty spot on. Basically it helps you understand your baby’s fussy phases as a prelude to a developmental spurt. Very helpful and insightful and its advice is easy to follow.
Mayo Clinic Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy. Health oriented, which was slightly more useful during the third trimester, but not really worth having.
The Birth Partner. Most books don’t really give you the breakdown on what to expect about labor, and I thought this one would. But it focuses entirely on unmedicated birth, which I was not in the market for. Also, they should rename this book “We’re trying to sell you a Doula”
10 Minute Solution – Prenatal Pilates dvd. I used this a few times, but it was a little too fast paced for my taste and had a less holistic approach than the yoga dvds.
BuddhaBellies – Yoga for Pregnancy dvd. Again I liked this well enough, just kept returning to my other, favorite yoga routine.
An Oxford Dictionary of First Names. Basically a list of names and meanings. You can find it all online.
The Tracy Anderson Method Presents Post-Pregnancy Workout dvd. Can’t say I ever even tried this one. Taking care of a baby is enough of a workout for me these days!
My best friend came to visit for a week. While she was here I asked her to be Anna’s Godmother, and she happily accepted.
It makes me happy to think that my daughter will go to her with things she might not want to talk to mom and dad about. Don’t we all need someone like that in our lives?
This post I read today answered a question that was burning inside me.
What do you do when you’re a parent that needs some alone time every day?
I feel that’s basically what makes me an introvert. I love socializing but ultimately, if I don’t recharge, it’s not going to be pretty. And I still want my kid to be a kid, but I can’t really change the way I am, either.
I’m glad there’s a sustainable answer.
This is a picture of my Nanna that was recently passed on to me. I’ve lived with her all my life and never knew what she looked like when she was young until now.
She’s my daughter Anna’s namesake. She wasn’t my biological grandmother, but someone who entered my family when she was about twenty years old, and raised each and every baby for two generations till the day she died.
She was famous for horribly spoiling the little ones and never turning you down when you needed comforting in the middle of the night and someone’s warm bed to slip into.
She never had a family of her own. We were her family. I feel like we never really thanked her enough for all she did. This one is for you, Nanna. We loved you very much.